I wanted to know more about BDSM so I’ve been out doing some research on the subject.  So far I’ve gotten quite a lesson thing like tools, basic positions and tersm… all good stuff to know no doubt.  I’ve decided to include some of the information I found here on this site so you can check it out as well.  Here are the most common (as I’ve seen them) BDSM positions:

Position 1: Standing
The legs are lightly spread apart and the hands are folded behind the neck with the elbows spread wide. By this the body and especially the chest are exposed and unprotected.

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Position 2: Kneeling Upright (Presenting Chest)
The knees are lightly spread apart and the hands are folded behind the neck with the elbows spread.

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Position 3: Face down on all fours  (Submission)
The arms are spread forward or folded on the back. The neck is exposed and with that the person shows complete submission.

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Position 4: On All Fours
This position has certain animalistic aspects as well as the aspect of humiliation. If you use your slave as a chair, make sure that you don’t put too much pressure on her spine. Try to sit as close to her ass as possible.

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Position5: Bend Down (Punishment / Inspection)
The backside is very much exposed and with that wonderfully positioned for a spanking or flogging. The danger of hurting the kidneys is very much reduced. Just make sure your strikes come from the side rather than from the top. This position also very useful for “inspections”. But it is quite unstable, so be careful when using it for punishment.

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Position 6: Backside / Present Ass
The arms are held together at the small of the back and spread the legs a little while the sub bends forward. In this position the genital area is very exposed and unprotected.

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All I want for Christmas is a Fucking Machine because they are just so cool.  At first I was a little nervous about the idea of being fucked by a machine, but as I’ve watched the videos at Fucking Machines and  I’ve come to realize that all I want for Christmas is a machine that will fuck me whenever I want and never get tired.  But more than that I though you know, you could use one of these bad boys along with a partner.  I think that Dom would enjoy them because he’s to possessive of me to allow another man to play with us, but a machine is a horse of a different color so to speak.  There would be another cock involved, one he doesn’t have to work thus freeing him up to flog or cane me while I’m getting fucked.  You know it could also be used to do double penetrations as well… hrmm.  Now that I think a bit more about it I really, really want a Fucking Machine for Christmas.  I wonder if I’ve been a good enough girl that Santa could bring me one.  Until then though I guess I’ll have to make due with watching the videos of all the hot girls playing around with these wonderful contraptions.

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Talking to you partner is never easy to do and it seems I’m not the only one who feels that way. I’ve been watching the stats here to see what posts you guys are really digging on and so far out of all the posts it seems like the most popular is the post I did about talking to your partner about your sexual needs.  In light of this I’ve decided to write up another post about the subject since I’m hoping that it’s helping a few of you to have a much more fulfilling sex life.

So here’s the thing.
This isn’t a one time only situation.  You can’t expect that your going to set down and have this great heart to heart and never have to say another damn word again.  Sorry guys, it just doesn’t work that way though I wish it did.

See we tend to build up more than just walls, we build habits.  It’s the little things that these habits have caused that can be the real elephant in the room.  It’s not nearly enough to tell your partner that you need them to be more dominant in the bedroom some times you have to take their hand and guide them a bit.

But how can you be sumbissive and guide your partner?  It’s actually easier than it sounds to be perfectly honest.  You have to keep the lines of communication open at all times for one.  And yes occasionally you will have to be the catalyst for your sex life.  For instance ladies, if you walk into a room with a collar, cuffs and leather on holding  a leash I think your partner may get the picture.

Another thing, don’t be afraid of porn.  I post pictures and now video clips from sites like The Training Of O, Sex and Submission and Public Disgrace here for a reason.  These sites are educational for those of us getting into the lifestyle as well as entertaining.  For some potential doms this can be what shows them how to go about dominating you.  Think about it, just about all the things you know how to do some one taught you in one way or another.  Whether it was some one setting you down and showing you how to do it or if it was you watching some one do some thing.  The point is at some point in time there was another party there to help guide you.  These sites I post about will do the same thing but better.  You can watch them with your partner and use them to decide what is and isn’t ok for you.  You can see what things turn you on and so can your partner.  If your here odds are good you already know you are into BDSM so the battle is half won already now we just have to get your partner on the same page.

Set down with them and show them this site.
Use the links to go to some of the adult sites I have linked here.
Take the time to watch videos and talk about your needs and how your partner can help to meet those needs.

If you or your partner have questions then ask them.  Use the comments area to ask me any thing you like.  I’ve got tons of contacts and am happy to do the research for you so all you have to do is read the answer.  And best of all, I’ve been where you are.  In fact there are days where I still feel like the ameba under the microscope, so I get where you are at.  Just remember nothing ventured nothing gained and it’s your sex life. You get what you deserve out of it.

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Reader forgive me for I have sinned… It’s been 10 day’s since my last post.  I didn’t really have any thing new for you though.

Today however, I do.

Dom and I reviewed another Training Of O video that really knocked things out of the ball park.  I’m telling you if your a newb to the idea of BDSM this is a site you simply have to check out.

In this episode we watched the lovely Raina Verene on day one.
I love the day one episodes because they go over the rules of submission and start the process of breaking these girls into proper submissive ladies.  Some thing very near and dear to my heart.

Raina has a lot of personal BDSM experience as she explains during her induction interview.  She’s in a relationship with a dom, but explained that there were aspects that she wished she was better versed in.  Ones that really stuck out for me were protocol and anal.  I can understand why she wants more instruction in those areas.  Sounds like she has some of the same issues and or reservations that I do.

So… did the video turn on Dom enough he wanted to play?
Oh yea…

I spent the next 3 hours tied to the wall, bound with my hand behind my back blindfolded and totally used.  Of course no part of me was spared when it came to punishment.  The slightest infraction resulted in my meeting the business end of the riding crop or flogger.  Seems like I would have learned a few lessons and yet I know that next time I’m doomed to repeat the same mistakes that got me in so much trouble the last time.  I’m not a big talker during scenes but Dom is determined to see that change.
He tried a few new things, some of them I must admit I didn’t care for a bit not that he really cared all that much.  See, I have really sensitive feet and he knows it.  So that was a new place for him to strike when I wans’t being a very good girl.  My feet were so sore that I could hardly walk after the scene or the next day.
We also did some blow job training.  That surprised me because I always thought I was pretty good at giving head until it was explained to me that my problem was I lacked deep throat abilities.  I’ve been told that was going to change one way or another.  Dom likes to do these training exercises while I’m blindfolded.  This way, he explained, I have nothing else to distract me from the cock in my mouth.
Once he was done with my mouth he decided it was time for me to get on all fours and take his cock from behind.  Half off the bed it was hard for me to maintain position because I kept falling over.  He finally had me place my hands on the floor and fuck him by moving myself back and forth while he stayed stationary.  It was great until I started to tire and he had to flog my ass in order to get me back into a good rhythm to satisfy him.  My arms hurt like hell for a long time after that, but I guess it’s not so bad.  It was really great sex and I got to get some upper body exercise out of it as well.

Dom is wanting to revisit the Sex and Submission site this weekend so I’m sure come Monday I’ll have new tales to tell.  Here is a pic from Raina’s wonderful day one video over at Training of O… enjoy!

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I found a new site today and I’m very excited about it in more ways than one!  I’m really picky about my BDSM sites.  I like ones that reflect my interests as being a submissive partner so it’s been a challenge to find really good sites that cater to those interests.  Sex and Submission seems to be one of those sites.

Created by the same awesome people that brought us The Training Of O, Sex and Submission really looks like it’s got women like me in mind.  The girls all look like normal girls who love to be tied up, beat and fucked in the way of their masters choosing.  Forgive the pun, but you can’t beat that.

My partner has downloaded some of the videos and we will be watching some tonight to get a better feel of what this site has to offer.  Rest assured that I will be back tomorrow to give you a full report on S&S as well as how things went tonight.

Ok… looks like our download is done and I’m being directed to close down the old laptop and head upstairs.  I wonder what will be next?

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